Posts Tagged sex
Sex after surgery is another frequent flyer topic online. Many patients are somewhat reluctant to bring up this topic with their surgeons, so online research is understandable.
After tummy tuck surgery several of the changes in the short term at least detract from a woman’s sexual response. Now that I have done my wife’s tummy tuck, I have lived the experience personally as well as professionally.
Early on after a tummy tuck with a muscular repair, the patient will be apprehensive about sex. Anxiety is not good for a woman’s sexual experience in general. It at the very least decreases lubrication. These worries about potential pain also put a damper upon a woman’s orgasmic prospects. Women have a much more cerebral sexual experience than men anyway. Many if not most women must be relatively relaxed to have a good orgasm. Some women also have more widespread muscular contractions with orgasm than others. The abdominal wall muscular repair can be sore or hurt with this kind of activity until healing moves into the second or third month. As the repair becomes more healed, this soreness subsides for the most part.
Patients will wonder when they can have sex after a tummy tuck. My patients are advised that gentle protected activity is possible within a few weeks. Real enjoyable relations most often return when the muscular repair has healed more completely….by the second or third month. It gets better but takes a little time in most cases.
John Di Saia MD
As many of you know I have a web site, this blog and a forum or two that I surf and at which I receive questions. This one was direct:
“I feel silly asking the question but I just got my breast implants done and my man really likes boobie sex. When can we do it? My doctor did a great job, but is so conservative. I would feel stupid asking him. I feel less silly asking you as I have read you site and blog for quite a while now.”
This definitely qualifies as the question of the week. The question has been asked before but you don’t “beat around the bush” at all (no pun intended). LOL.
Patients tend to be a bit embarrassed in asking questions about cosmetic surgery and sex. This has been a recurring topic on a many forums that I have frequented over the years, but there it usually comes up after tummy tuck surgery. I also put up something brief on my web site directed toward assisting my patients with post-op sex issues. These issues obviously interest many people, but many like yourself are too embarrassed to ask.
Ideally you would ask your surgeon what he or she recommends. Patients do not realize that not all surgeons do surgery in the same fashion with the same materials. So what I recommend to my patients may not be the best for you. In fact, following the advice of anyone other than your surgeon has more risk than following your surgeon’s direction. Understand that implants are not made to last forever and you are planning upon some extra wear.
Just looking into how to answer this question was a trip. What to even call the “act” is difficult without using censored words. Wikipedia calls it “mammary intercourse.” The Brits apparently call it a tit wank. The implant makers probably wouldn’t recommend it, but it is done as we all know. Some of my patients have told me it was a motivator adding to the desire to have the implants in the first place.
So I am offering you general guidelines only and not medical advice:
You can probably “test drive” your new rack a month after surgery. If you are a redo operation, you definitely want to ask your surgeon first. Have your man avoid licking the breast on the area of the incision (the healing line through which the implants were placed) or getting any bodily fluids on it for at least a month after surgery or a week after it appears completely closed (without scabs) whichever comes second. Be gentle the first time, use plenty of lubrication and definitely stop if anything hurts.
John Di Saia MD
Originally posted 2008-07-21 07:30:00.
NY Post Story – link expired and removed
An OB-GYN in Beverly Hills was reportedly injecting Collagen into women’s G- Spots to “make them easier to find.”
“Great. Just go down where it hurts honey.”
And people thought I was crazy offering reduction labiaplasty.
John Di Saia MD
Originally posted 2006-04-06 18:48:00.
I just had my boobies done and we are getting kinda horny. When can we have sex?
BTW – I could never ask my doctor. He seems so – I don’t know what.
I get this a lot. My patients like to talk:
Sex After Plastic Surgery – General Recommendations
After all, people don’t get plastic surgery to not enjoy it – do they?
John Di Saia MD
Originally posted 2009-11-02 09:00:18.